We’ve all heard it – the grass is always greener on the other side. So, when we’re green with envy, the common solution is to focus on what’s positive or good in your own life. But what about the cause of this grass is always greener syndrome? It helps to understand where this stems from.
Our assumptions and comparisons about life create this green craze. Very early on we pick out shiny objects that we dream about. Shiny objects are things, people, situations, and circumstances. It’s the ideal image of our life. Here’s the thing… we forget to update that image as we grow up. A teenager who swoons over hot cowboys, could be disappointed later when her husband is not the wood-chopping type. The jet setter whose going to make a million their first year out of school finds themselves having settled for a middle-class suburban lifestyle. Now, they are both looking at what was supposed to be and comparing their current situation with the past shiny objects. They are blocked from creating room for newer shiny objects. What might they be missing?
Next time you’re looking at the grass on the other side, ask yourself what old assumptions and shiny objects may be distracting you. Then, remember to do an update and expand your shiny objects list with some of the greatness in your life NOW! (And there is always something.)
Oh, by the way… when the teenager did this, one of her new shiny objects was a husband who’s great at homework with the kids and in an interesting turn this fostered greater romance in their lives. And the jet setter discovered a shiny small business venture that built into a billion dollar corporation over 5 years. Just to name a couple…
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