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Ask For What You Want (Part I)

With the churning of 2012 off to a booming start, I see the importance of asking for what you want.  There are many ways we can ask for what we want, both outwardly and inwardly.  You can do this in so many ways.  Some examples are:

  • Asking your bank to review a charge that seems unwarranted
  • Searching for volunteer helpers with your move to a new home
  • Praying for answers and guidance
  • Calling on a dear friend during a moment of crisis
  • Asking the credit company for a reduced APR
  • Utilizing your network to find quality referrals for a project your working on
  • Using meditation, yoga, or exercise to process and call forward the energy you want (loving, cooperative, peaceful, abundant, etc.)
  • Asking someone you admire to be your mentor
  • Letting your significant other know what you are going through and what you would like from them (don’t make them guess)
  • AND ALWAYS, asking yourself to seize the moment!

Why always asking yourself to seize the moment?  Because it starts with your ability to take action and seize moments of opportunity!  Timing can be of the essence.  My very first example above,  “asking the bank to review charges”, is from a personal experience.  Last week, I was headed to  make a “quick” deposit when I remembered a recent insufficient funds charge that I felt was unwarranted.  I chose to take the opportunity and go inside where I asked the teller to take a look.  It proved to be very beneficial for me and I ended up with more money back in my pocket than I had even anticipated!

I saw another sweet example on the Ellen Show that demonstrates asking for what you want in a wonderous way.  I’m sure Pedro got more than what he even anticipated as well.  Check out the clip here!

So from very literal ways of opening your mouth and asking, to the biblical reference of, ask and you shall receive, it comes down to you.  Take action.  Seize the moment.  And know that you can create what you want.

I invite you to Ask For What You Want through rest of the week.  On Friday, I will share part II of this discussion and we shall see what you receive through simply asking. 🙂

Synergistically Yours,

Jenn Seffrin

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The Power of Words

We are surrounded by energy everyday and emit energy ourselves.  Through our actions, thoughts, feelings, and words.  Yes, our words!  They have an energetic pull and impact our experiences.  Take a couple of familiar words we say to ourselves – “should” and “want to”.

Should = feeling like you must or ought to; based on external notions about what is best; stems from expectations of being and doing all things (which is unrealistic)

Want to = certain; committed; aligned with values, priorities, and goals; empowering choice

Think about the messaging to yourself.  What words do you use that are empowering and what words do you use that create other less desired feelings?  I had one crop up into my awareness recently.  Let’s take a look.

One of my default tendencies has been to become overwhelmed.  Which in the past, as a means to cope, granted me permission to simply shut down.  Which brings us forward to present day…  I was having a very interesting, fun, and engaging conversation recently.  I thoroughly enjoyed what this conversation was about and the great ideas that were being generated.  It was good stuff!  Afterward, I said I was “overwhelmed” by all the possibilities.  I then immediately wanted to go home and clear my head as to release the feelings of anxiousness.  How did I have this cool conversation and now want to shut down?  Because of the word I chose, that’s why.  I wasn’t overwhelmed by the conversation.  It was “exhilerating”.  My antsy-pants and sweaty armpits were from excitement, not overwhelm.  When I realized that, it shifted everything.  I did not want to shut down but share my cool day with a close friend and consider more of what it could mean.

So, my new word is EXHILERATING!  For me it’s exciting and fun together.

What empowering word are you going to begin using?

Synergistically yours,

Jenn Seffrin

P.S.  Now that I realize defaulting to overwhelm is a habit, I’m paying attention to how that pesky booger is showing up in other ways.  Wish me luck!